When the voltage has reached the limit, and anger or resentment won’t let you look into your partner’s eyes, it seems to us that it is time to take drastic measures. Is it worth it to save a relationship? To experience the destruction of relationships is painfull. Anyone who has gone through this period, familiar with overflowing of fear and nausea, and panic attacks by understanding that at stake now all live together, which may crumble at any moment. In this situation, it seems that only drastic measures can save the relationship. However, the sharp, “fateful decisions” strategy in most cases, only exacerbates an already difficult situation in the pair.
Why categorical actions like decisions to live alone or to find out that a honest relationship could lead to worse consequences? Instead of trying to understand the cause of our suffering, we are eager to do some dramatic step, it seems that it will bring faster results, but this is misleading.
Most relationships deteriorate from love to hate, not because of someone’s terrible behavior, but because of the backlog of bad habits and the inability to negotiate with each other. To solve this problem, it takes time.Such a nice gesture as a candlelit dinner or other ways to rekindle the romantic feelings in a partner, will work only briefly. It is necessary to change their daily life, their habits, or problems accumulate over again. And since the big change can be very difficult to achieve, the partners quickly lose patience, strength of mind, knowing that the crack in the relationship will not heal ever.