“Do you have a minute? I need to talk to you … “
It is not easy to tell the other person what’s going on in your soul, or tell him that it is time to break up. We are afraid that we do not understand, do not want to hurt or to lose the love and good attitude of the other. How to avoid difficulties in communication?
Complex, or “severe”, the makes conversation not what is proclaimed and what is not spoken at all. Despite the outward diversity, “serious conversations” have the same structure. After all, we are not aware of it report, always conducting three concurrent strategies:
Impose our facts and our vision of the situation,
We would like to make to respect our feelings,
We protect ourselves.
Emotions are the basis of any difficult conversation, but they are rarely amenable to verbalization: either because it is considered inappropriate, either because people are afraid to be vulnerable. Although the force with which they are trying to hold back emotions affect behavior, manifesting itself in the form of a potential “destruction”: hiding behind sarcasm, impatience, anger …